Frankly Speaking

When it comes to reproductive rights, guys are fucked. The entire abortion debate is centered around whether or not a woman has the right to terminate the pregnancy, for whatever reasons. Under that assumption, it is solely the woman's decision. If she wants to terminate and the father wants to keep it? Sorry about his luck. If he wishes to terminate and the mother wants to keep it, guess who is saddled with 18 years +/- of child support? That's right, the man.

Would someone like to explain to me why it works that way? Let me put it this way, it takes two to tango, and if it results in a third person being added to the mix, why is it fair that the woman has the sole right to decide if this person is going to live or not, and also to decide if the man is going to be paying for it.

Now, I am in no way against child support. I pay a fairly substantial amount of child support every month, and while it's not fun sending that much money to my ex wife every month, I want to take care of my children. However, if I were to go out, get drunk and hook up with some random woman out there, resulting in a pregnancy, why is it her sole decision whether I'm going to be stuck paying for it the rest of my life?

It almost makes you sympathize with this guy.

Darshana Patel told authorities she was suspicious as she watched her boyfriend stir a smoothie at an ice cream store. When he offered it to her, she noticed powder on the cup's rim, and the pregnant woman feigned illness and didn't drink it.

According to a criminal complaint, the woman says she sent the powder to a laboratory and it turned out to be mifepristone, the abortion pill also known as RU-486.

The test results came too late: She had already suffered two miscarriages in less than a year.

Obviously she wanted the baby, he didn't. He was facing being saddles with child support payments for the next 18 years, and decided the best way to deal with that was to slip her the morning after pill.

In the words of Chris Rock, "I'm not saying he should have killed her, but I understand."

Now we take on the case of the surrogate father.

The Nassau County man donated his sperm to a work colleague, and included his name on the child's birth certificate, saying it would give the boy an identity, courts documents revealed.

His colleague is a lesbian, and she and her partner wanted a child. He donated the sperm, and they had a son. The problem is that he crossed the line between simply being a donor, and being a father. He sent the kids cards and gifts, all signed "dad" or "daddy", and maintained some contact with the kid. Until 1993, that is, when the couple moved from New York to Oregon.

But, he has since been ordered to now pay child support for the kid, who is now 18, even though there was an "oral agreement" with the mother that he would give up all rights and responsibilities for the child.

Long story short, if you're a guy, you better make sure you know what you're getting in to, the next time you're getting in to someone. Because it may just be yourself you're fucking.

Labels: general rants